I don’t think it’s even been a week, but I’m up to 45 g in the Aquaflex cone. I think I might go up another 5 g today since the last few times the cone keeps moving up deeper than I think it’s supposed to to work the pelvic floor muscles. Part of that may be I’m moving around too much.

I’ve also taken to starting out in the shower with it – I figure I’m mostly stationary at this point and it kills 2 birds with one stone. Although the first time I did this, I was still cat-sitting and the drain cap in the shower was loose and would slide off to the side every time my foot touched it. I kept thinking, “What if it falls out and down the drain?” How would I explain to this dude, who is twenty years older than me, that my vaginal weight fell into his shower drain? What if I couldn’t get it back?

In other news, the STBX is moving out today and into his new apartment. It’s been very sad. I am the one that wanted the divorce, but it’s not as though I hate him or anything. We are very good friends and the end of this twelve-year relationship is really hard on me, too. Something some of our “mutual friends” don’t seem to understand. It’s amazing what bad advice people will give to someone who is going through divorce. I’m thankful that my friends and family have been supportive of both of us.

On a whim, I searched for “kegel exercises” again and finally stumbled upon a page with more specifics as far as reps and sets. Here’s the link: http://www.wdxcyber.com/kegel.htm

Right now I’m taking a break from watching the Pirates movies (which I’ve never seen before today) and drinking Arrogant Bastard, brewed by the Stone Brewery. I’m on my last night of cat-sitting. The sun is going down, making the sky all pretty with the hills and the harbor and the red glow on the clouds… Too bad this house is all tore up. It would have been nice to have a friend over for drinks and dinner.

The STBX is out of town so I’m missing the opportunity to be at home alone with my own kitties. But he’s moving out next weekend, so I’ll have plenty of alone time soon. Good? Yes. But also a little lonely… Divorce sucks, but sometimes you have to close one chapter of your life so another can begin.

I’m drunk…

Well, color me impressed… with myself! I tried out the Aquaflex Vaginal Weight System this morning and I didn’t have to start with the large cone which is the beginner size. My pelvic floor muscles are stronger than I thought, I guess. I started with the small cone and was able to use 35 g of weight for the half hour I kept it in – while walking around and packing up books.

The Aquaflex system comes with two sizes of cones and 2 20 g weights, 1 10 g weight and 1 5 g weight so that you can incrementally increase the weight and thus the resistance to your pelvic floor muscles. They recommend that you build up to walking around, but I didn’t want to have to stand in one place for 20 minutes so I started with a weight that I could move around with.

So today is day one and they say that it takes 8 to 12 weeks for noticeable improvement using the cones every day. Then you only have to use them once or twice a week. I think when I can have all the weights in place, I’ll switch to Ben Wa balls that are smaller than the small cone size to keep working it. Also, since I’m apparently in better shape than I thought, I’ll start the Tantric manipulation exercises when I can get a proper “tool.”

Although increased sexual pleasure for both partners is a nice result of strong pelvic floor muscles, it also helps correct and prevent stress incontinence – which thankfully I do not suffer from. But prevention is better than having to cure a problem, so at least I’m doing something good for my health – and whenever I get to have sex again that will better, too – I hope.

Wow, did I get ripped. So I bought this little number at the Lover’s Package for $45… And here I find it on Amazon for only $23! Well, I don’t think I’ll be doing a video review of it. Frankly, I find Dr. Laura Berman’s Weighted Pelvic Exerciser to be more trouble than it’s worth. Especially since I forked out $45…

Who wants to stand around holding a knobby, plastic toy in their twat for 20 or more minutes? I’m busy and that’s time I could be doing other things, like grooming my pussy… Cat, that is… Plus the instructions tell you to start with the small end which makes no sense to me…

The thing is, from what I’ve read, pelvic exercisers supposedly help you get your pelvic floor muscles in shape faster than the Kegel exercises alone. So I bought this thing when I actually went to the LP to buy a “cylinder” for some of the manipulation exercises Andre describes in his book, Tantra: The Cult of the Feminine. When I told the sales girl what I was after, she showed me Dr. Berman’s Weighted Pelvic Exerciser – which I bought instead. I should have gone for the dildo…

I did a little more internet research into exercisers later and found the “Aquaflex Vaginal Weight System.” The only weird thing is it seems to be marketed through lots of different sites by the same company. I bought it anyway, thinking since you could adjust the weights it may be more effective and versatile than just getting Ben Wa balls. I received my Aquaflex system yesterday and will try them out tomorrow. More on those soon…

I’d also like to point out that the Mula Bandha (see previous post) strengthens different muscles than Kegel exercises do. So it’s probably a good thing to do both, I’m thinking.

Check out my disclaimer! I am not a doctor and what I write on this site is just what I’ve personally read and experienced. For real medical advice, go see a medical doctor, aka MD…

Speaking of Kegel exercises and popular culture… Last night I was watching the second season of Arrested Development on the Netflix streaming with the soon-to-be-ex (STBX). It was the first episode of the season and Lindsey catches Tobias exercising his PC (pubococcygeus) muscle to a TV show.

I thought this was pretty rad for a few reasons. For one, it seemed to inspire Lindsey to work out those pelvic floor muscles to the same show. For two, Tobias is a man. To be sure, the writers may have put Tobias in this situation because they thought it was funny given the questionable nature of his sexual orientation and general lack of macho-ness. But really, Tobias was doing something every man should do!

The PC muscles are the same in both men and women. And in both men and women, this muscle weakens with age and disuse. Men who exercise their PC muscles can benefit from stronger, longer-lasting erections as well as improved bladder control and prostrate health.

In my next post, I’ll describe some exercises that both men and women can do to strengthen their PC muscles!